Parent/Teacher Conference=Humiliation for this Parent
So imagine this, I’m in a Parent/Teacher conference for Sunshine in the fourth grade.
Me: Okay, tell me how great Sunshine’s doing.
Teacher: Yeah, Sunshine’s not reading at grade level and her comprehension is really low.
I thought she’d been doing really good, but when I looked back at her last report card, sure enough, right next to where the monkey signed, it said, Sunshine is not reading at grade level and her comprehension is low. Did he read that and think we should do something about it? Nope, he didn’t even read it. You can read HERE what happened and she turned it all around.
When Moonshine was in the fifth grade there was a three-month period where she didn’t do her homework. She just wasn’t doing it. Every day I would ask if she had homework and she’d say no, and I’d think, that’s weird, then one day I found out she had actually just not been doing it.
I wonder how many people break down crying in a Parent/Teacher conference. I’ve told the story before, but when I was in the fourth grade with Mrs. Foster, I used to have to write sentences that said, I will not talk in class. Well, on the fourth time of having to write, I will not talk in class, I had to have my mom sign the sentences. Well, that just sounded like trouble, so I decided to forge her name for her, you know, to save her the trouble. Mrs. Foster never said anything so I thought I was home free. Well, on Parent/Teacher conference day my mom came home with the knowledge that I was a forger and I was in real trouble.
This Parent/Teacher conference, every single one of Moonshine’s teachers told me she’s not working at her full potential. They love her and she’s very bright, but it’s frustrating because she doesn’t work very hard. I don’t know what’s she’s doing, I don’t know what she thinks, but she’s barely just getting by. So the last class of the night was with her math teacher who was not very friendly or welcoming. I found out later she thinks I’m a deadbeat. She told me that Moonshine had only done 4 homework assignments out of the 19 that had been assigned, I was shocked, but not really surprised. I was shocked because I thought we were past this, but not really surprised that we were still talking about it. Here’s the kicker. She then told me she’d had Moonshine call home last week to tell me she hadn’t been doing her homework and I looked at Moonshine and asked who she called and she told me the monkey’s gal.
I think I called her Felony Melanie in another post because she spent 6 years in prison for trying to have her first husband killed. I can’t believe I even know someone like that, let alone she’s a part of my kids’ story. So Moonshine called her because she knew she wouldn’t get in trouble. This chick only has custody of one of her kids that she let get a tattoo at 13 and the girl then ran away with a guy she met on MySpace. Is there a MySpace anymore? FM didn’t tell anyone that Moonshine called, so another week and a half went by with Moonshine not doing her homework.
I was furious, then humiliated. I think because I pride myself on being a parent. I really don’t have that much going for me right now, so I pride myself on having the relationship I do with my kids. I talk to them every day about what kind of homework they have and what they did that day. I just talked about how much closer Moonshine and I were getting and I was trusting her to do more, but then she shot that all to hell by lying about her homework every day. Her “don’t you trust me?” eyes and her pleading to go to the mall and she’s been lying about everything else? Awwww hell no. Her life as she knows it is over, she was in for quite a shock this morning when I made her leave her phone on the TV and walk on out the door.
Skip to the day after P/T conferences and I’m still fuming at the monkey and his gal. I get a call from him and tell him what’s going on and how mad I am and about an hour later there’s a knock on my door. He told me he went to school and Moonshine told him she’d really called herself, not Felony Melanie to leave a message with herself that she wasn’t doing her homework. Humiliation, Day 2! Then he stood in the door and gave me some parenting advice. Yeah, he did. He told me not to be too hard on poor Moonshine because she already knew how much trouble she was in. This is where my head exploded and I told him he had to leave. Now, I clearly don’t know how to parent if I’m raising a sociopath, but he REALLY doesn’t know how to parent since she’s learned it all from him.
Right now she’s grounded for the rest of her life and I’m trying to decide if I need to teach her a code like Dexter or if this is just something she’s going to grow out of. I hope she does it fast though because Moonshine and I are going to have a really hard time of it until she does.