What’s Your Hobby, Tell Me What’s Your Hobby
I’m on a journey of self-discovery.
You know when you’re in a relationship with someone and you tend to go along with what they like even if you don’t know if it’s something you like? Is that just me? In my previous life I was a bowler, a golfer, a softball playing fool; but have I done it since my world exploded? Not so much. I’ve played golf once after my dad died with my step-mom, and while it was enjoyable, I’m not sure I’d do it again, and haven’t.
My sister once told me that I take on my parents hobbies because I’m not interesting enough to have my own. That may not have been the EXACT wording, but it was close and that’s what I heard. I’m a sheep, a follower, I don’t really know what I like to do. Actually I do know what I like to do, but it’s watching TV, going to movies, blogging, and sleeping. That’s embarrassing to admit. I guess it could be worse though, right?
So why is it so hard to come up with my own identity? You’d think it would be easy to decide what you like and just do those things. I think people get into a trap when they get with the people they do and just go along. I have a friend who married a guy that goes camping and dirt biking. I would never have seen her as a dirt biker and I don’t know if she truly likes doing it or goes along with him because it’s something he likes. I’m not saying you shouldn’t compromise, but what if it was something she hated doing, would she still do it for him?
Another example: I hate camping. I’m not an outdoorsy girl and there’s WAY too much preparation. But what if my next beau (ha!) was a camping enthusiast. Would I like him enough to overcome my hatred of camping, or would I just do it and hate every minute of it? That’s the fine line I’m questioning.
Maybe I just haven’t found anything that I’m really good at except watching TV, going to movies, etc. That’s what I need to be searching for. My dad once told me I had a good eye for photography, so I tried my hand at taking pictures; but I have no follow through and probably still have rolls of film to develop. My mom’s hobby is sewing, and while I’m not good at sewing, I can do the embroidery and I do that for the girls’ dance studio to offset the tuition. It then went from something I enjoyed doing to a job and you can read here about what happened to my sewing room. I wish I was creative enough to do something fresh and new and make actual money on it and then I might have a renewed love for it.
So what do you like to do? Maybe I can see if one of your hobbies will fit me.